Oh, I know that all the juvenile insults still fly from the mouths of supposedly mature and civil adults. I'm just mentioning that I haven't encountered the supposed pinnacles of manliness saying "Dude your a fag" to the random skinny white guys since junior high. I live in a pretty backwards community too, but usually the homophobic insults I come across aren't in those scenarios because I don't know enough people who'll take it and those who are at the level of mediocrity who can only fall back on those insults are often verbally torn to shreds before they can get their "You're a fag!", "I'm not a fag you're a fag!" or "I'm not a fag your mom's a fag!" witty reparte in gear. As such, the only people I've ever seen get harassed like that grew a backbone or a brain by sixteen and diverted the crap from themselves back onto those who sling the crap.
Also, most of the people I hang out with are debaters and engineers, which aren't really the future of burger king crowds who slung those style insults way back when.