No, we prefer email as well, actually, and we wouldn't need that information unless the story is written and posted. We're quite good about privacy issues ourselves.
Stories based on any real persons require written permission from those persons. Please keep that in mind, and your buddy could not provide permission for himself and his wife. Her permission would need to be sent from her own email address.
I refer you to the suggested disclaimers for Original fiction and non-fiction here.
foxmaiden no longer has any stories posted here. I'm not showing any staff action with respect to removing stories, so I must presume that the author removed the stories.