I left the mother part out because Hans is a german priest from a traditionalist order. Of course he's made a lot of changes in his views, or is he just acting? Anyway, the old germanic vows were very male oriented and didn't include the mother since it was the father only who had the right to give his daughter away in marriage. Of course that's kind of ho;;ow since it's a woman who answers, but I thought he would he would coach them in what he knows, old habits and all that. of course the old vows also has the wife saying she'd obey, something I didn't think Emma would say at all!!