This is what I was saying! We (and I do mean everyone, male, female, whatever) as parents should have a choice! And whatever your personal decision, no one has the right to look down on you for it. If you stay home, it does not mean you are a slacker, or a leech or a sponge. Guess what, staying home isn't just sitting on your ass all day. I am a maid, a nanny, a chef, a personal shopper and about ten other jobs that I have to do on a day to day basis. And I don't get paid for it. And if I had chosen to go back to work, I'd still be here for my son as much as I possibly could be! Just because a parent is working, does not mean they are neglecting their child. My husband works, and he's still a fabulous father. *takes a deep breath* No one should have to defend themselves regarding their choice. No one.