Neither of those answers fit with how I view sex. I've never equated or really even related sex to love and I completely disagree with you view that sex is some great unifier between two lovers. In fact there is very little MEANING behind sex. its a biological process, an act to satisfy a horomonal drive, in fact the desire to procreate is usually not the fuel that causes arousal.
Now this sort of suggests that I see sex as entirely physical. Which isn't the case. There can be some very powerful emotions behind sex but the thing about emotions is that they are personal. In my case, I've never loved anyone I had sex with, but that didn't make those times meaningless. Even the awkward first time which, I'll admit, I wasn't quite mature enough for.
As for there being a loss of pride in sex, I've never experienced it. And to declare that there is some subconcious loss for giving and receiving pleasure perplexes me.
I respect your decision to be a virgin, in truth I find it admirable, but it comes with its own form of ignorance. Your opinions on sex have been formed on second hand information, from a source, which I suspect is Christianity, that is not known for encouraging learning in the first place.