Sex Scene Help

[SlntCobra1]

Some of you know how to write sex scenes extremely well, while others, like myself, have a difficult time trying to write a well thought out sex scene in their fic.

Other than sexy nouns and adjectives, I really could use some pointers on writing a good sex scene. FYI, my fic is M/F, WIP, F/F. Rated Adult+.

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Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys.

[canterro]

Well, another thing is - THINK REAL

Do not describe some cosmic reactions or experiences. Sex is a human thing, people do that quite often and can judge if you stay more or less true.

Think about what you do while having sex, think of what happens in reality, not in a pink-creamy-fantasy-smooth passion stories shot into space, which neglect dirt, awkwardness, pain, confusion, lack of practice and so on

[SlntCobra1]

Well it's rather difficult for me as I'm still a virgin.

[Danyealle]

Well it's rather difficult for me as I'm still a virgin.

despite what people thing, that matters not. I've done M/M stuff and I'm not a man (even won awards for it). I've also done f/f stuff and never done that in real life either. So, honestly, your real experiences don't mean diddly in this areal. What matters is you use your imagination and make it seem real with the way you describe it. And pointers would depend on what you want to do. If you're not comfortable with this or it's your first time, try something soft and go more for the feel of the scene rather than graphic details. Once you get more comfortable, go for more details with stuff that is more graphic and such.

But just a big hint on something that seems to be a problem with so many: keep an eye on where you place hands. Characters don't generally have more than two of those things and I've seen too many that describe things like a human is an octopus with 8 of em.

[marley_station]

For your lack of personal experience, you could do the voyeur thing. I go to Youtube and type in 'gay boys kissing' in the search field when I lack inspiration for a lemon or a lime in something I'm working on. I'm sure you could probably type in 'girls kissing girls' and get similar results.

[canterro]

Yeah, you can watch and use your imagination

If you're a virgin, the rule 'think real' still applies Just don't make it sweet and not physical. Sometimes the scene does include fluids, surprising body reaction and everything feels like heaven even if it's the first time. It's obvious that the first time is awkward, full of stress, sometimes painful, and not very nice. Sex is an art and you have to master skills to be able to make it feel like heaven

You can also send your descriptions to some betas or other authors to judge if you're taking a good direction

[Keith Inc.]

Yeah, there are some sex scenes out there that are hopefully written by virgins... Never mind the skies parting or being touched by the gods at orgasm, the mechanical details are so wrong it's offputting.

But there are virgins who can write a surprisingly good sex scene.

Figure out what it is that you'd want to happen in a good romp and make that happen on paper. Or, you know, screen.

Then, and this is critical, go back through and throw out every other adjective or adverb. I tend to find myself going through some sexcenes counting the times size is related as a qualifier. Colossal breasts, humongous cock, huge sac, gigantic glans... And if you can get two people naked three times without saying 'quivering' i will make a sacrifice in your honor.

[SlntCobra1]

And if you can get two people naked three times without saying 'quivering' i will make a sacrifice in your honor.

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[Keith Inc.]

Certain phrases are used so often in adult literature, i begin to suspect that the authors just put placeholders in as they write.

"He pulled off his pants and his [male thing] popped into view. Her [female thing] hungered for it."

Then some day laborers in the publisher's basement rotate through 'throbbing member' and 'quivering quim' with other phrases to fill out the novel.

Of course, there's a story i read before i wrote my Noah's Ark story where the author used 'penis' five times in one paragraph. It wasn't an improvement.

Just, please, have your characters talk the way you talk, unless you have established a good reason for them to be superliteral, superclinical, or so overeducated that they use twenty-dollar words to express five-cent ideas.

[WarlordEnfilade]

Imagine the scene from the point of view of one (or both) characters and describe what they are feeling, doing, and thinking.

I don't throw in sex scenes just for the sake of having them. If I'm actually describing what happens instead of just having them disappear into the bedroom (or closet or what have you), then obviously what happens there is important. I've written sex scenes where characters tried something for the first time, scenes where something happened that changed their outlook or way of thinking for good or bad...(whether that be realizing their affection for their partner or realizing they don't like a certain kind of sex....), where the encounter advanced or destroyed their relationship. The point is, when the sex scene is over, something should have changed or progressed. Otherwise you've just written a gratuitous sex scene that isn't important to your story.

So I keep in mind what I want to have happened by the time the scene is done--or, sometimes I throw two characters together and see what develops out of it.

[TheBlackStrawberry]

Some of you know how to write sex scenes extremely well, while others, like myself, have a difficult time trying to write a well thought out sex scene in their fic.

Other than sexy nouns and adjectives, I really could use some pointers on writing a good sex scene. FYI, my fic is M/F, WIP, F/F. Rated Adult+.

*points to top two links in sig*

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys.

Let me put my two cents here:

I for one I am not good at writing sex scenes but what I do is put myself in the place of the characters what would he or she feel, and how when that happens make me feel, if you are a virgin. Many famous gay writer what they do is they actually admit at looking at videos of m/m sex or pictures to get what they are trying to write in their stories and something just let your imagination run wild.

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[SlntCobra1]

Why would I look at gay porn!? You do know I'm not gay, right?

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[Willowstara]

I am not much good at sex scenes myself really, I just try to picture what my characters are doing (And I am good at imagining things), although I am still a virgin and I may not know everything I still try to keep it good. So just imagine the scenes.

[SlntCobra1]

While I do have an excellent imagination, for some reason, I just feel weird writing sex scenes. Sure I can write small sex scenes with ease, but full scale makes me feel weird.

[TheBlackStrawberry]

Why would I look at gay porn!? You do know I'm not gay, right?

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Is not about seeing gay porn is just suggestion of things you can do, you can watch a movie with a sex scene it does not have to be m/m it could be anything, it was an idea. That could help you, as everyone gets into it differently when it comes to writing sex scenes. Good luck.

[canterro]

Well, if you're a virgin, imagination can be a bad advisor. It tends to make things smooth and just not real.

Read about the physiology, read some papers on sex (and I mean serious papers), watch some movies, I don't know - talk to people who actually have sex experiences

And... write. People will judge you. Every try is gonna be better then the previous one

Of course, some readers are just as inexperienced as you are. But still, we improve by doing things (writing, in this case), not just reading about them

[Melrick]

The problem with using porn movies for advice on how to write realistic sex scenes is that they're almost universally unnatural, as in very few people have "real" sex like in porn movies. And the situations leading up to the sex is invariably unnatural, as well.

And I have to say, most strongly, that experience really does make a difference when writing about sex. If you've never done it then you can't possibly truly know how it feels. As Canterro succinctly put it, imagination can be a bad advisor. It also depends on just what kind of sex scene it's going to be. Does it have to be ultra realistic, or is it essentially about the overall experience rather than the fine details? The best thing you can do is to just keep writing. You'll improve in time, if you're willing to learn.

[MorbidFantasy]

The other thing is, if you can visualize a scene in your head and see if physically happening, then you have a template which you can then proceed to flesh out the details to in words. I wouldn't worry too much about how realistic it has to be necessarily. I gave up on being accurate in certain departments (human endurance, posturing) in favor of writing whatever got my imagination working. Is it really that embarrassing that I draw alot of inspiration from hentai anime/manga? Well IDC really. What matters is that it works for me, and at least some people who read my fics like it.

[Keith Inc.]

The problem with using porn movies for advice on how to write realistic sex scenes is that they're almost universally unnatural, as in very few people have "real" sex like in porn movies. And the situations leading up to the sex is invariably unnatural, as well.

But on the other hand, how many people come to AFF to read about normal natural sex?

I have two characters getting intimate inside of a dragon somewhere on my archive. And a scene of sexing a cloud giant. A demoness with a three-slot pussy. Transforming goddesses. Centaurs. A Tetris handheld. I don't think most AFF sex scenes would suffer horribly from a little porn-movie-sex.

Of course, it has to be in the right setting. I would have a difficulty accepting if Smurfette finally gets Papa Smurf to show her who her 'daddy' is, shouting 'yer hung lahk a horse, so Ah'm gonna ride you like one, gor dammit!"

But i can certainly see Major Carter telling Doctor Jackson that 'My, it's hot in this pyramid. Hot and humid. Hot and....so very...WET.'

It's mostly a matter of styles, i think. Porn sex is the whole point. Characters exist only to justify the sex scenes, the plot is just window dressing so it doesn't all look alike. if you're trying to amplify the characters through the use of sex, if sex isn't the point of the exercise as much as the canon figures are, then most porn scenes would be inappropriate. it's jarring to go through realistic scenes of realistic people than hit wild, screaming, swing from the chandelier, string of profanity, bodily fluid splatter. It's liek a speed bump.

[SlntCobra1]

Jut out of curiosity, would visualizing everything I want to do to Alexis, were she real, be of any help?

[WotanAnubis]

Jut out of curiosity, would visualizing everything I want to do to Alexis, were she real, be of any help?

Probably, yeah. It'd at least give you a basis to work from. Unless what you want to do is so incredibly unrealistic that people won't accept it unless you give a damn good justifcation for it in the text.

Personally, I tend to have either a specific image or a specific mood in mind. The challenge then becomes to express that picture and/or those feelings in words.

[SlntCobra1]

Well I have specific images and moods but getting them from my brain into my fingertips is the real issue here. >_>

[Jaded_Star]

I used to write a lot of sex scenes when I was a virgin, I rarely got any complaints. I find what's helped me develop more than anything (including actual sex) is reading other peoples work. Look at what you like, wording style of writing, perspective, and try to replicate it in your own way. Reading something you don't like is also helpful.

In terms of being afraid to write something, I just have a couple of drinks. Proof reading is required later, but it works. Or just try going all out, think to yourself no one will ever read it but you, and see what you come up with.

On another note, the raunchiest thing I ever wrote, which I thought would make people think I was insane, got me the most praise. You never know until you try it.

If none of this, or the other suggestions in this post work, try working with another writer.

remember you're writing for fun, if you're not comfortable and having fun doing it, who cares what anyone else thinks?

[SlntCobra1]

Normally, I would be open to others adding chapters, but I didn't want people to fuck with it at all, I assume that most everybody here is rather respectful of others and their fics, but currently, I'm only looking at 2 people who could help me with writing my sex scene.

SlashFirestorm and WotanAnubis.

[WotanAnubis]

currently, I'm only looking at 2 people who could help me with writing my sex scene.

SlashFirestorm and WotanAnubis.

Oh dear. This probably isn't a good time to reveal that writing sex scenes is almost always a complete struggle for me, is it?

I'm afraid there's only two good hints I can give (other than, be at least somewhat aware of the mechanics of sex).

- Know what kind of image or mood you wish to convey. This will help you describe positions, emotions, maybe surroundings.

- Know the character who's having sex. This really only works in first person or limited third, though. Basically, I find it helps to imagine what kind of language the character would use to describe what's going on. A prudish virgin is unlikely to desrcibe her hesitant first time as "this hot stud totally pounded the fuck out of my wet pussy with his fat cock". Likewise, a foul-mouthed nymphomaniac is unlikely to use language like "their touches whispered across my skin like petals of a velvet rose" when she's being gang-banged by a bunch of lust-crazed dickgirls.

That's... pretty much all the general advice I can give. Know who your characters are and know what you want them to do and go from there.