thank you all for your help with this debate! All of you made going points here and they will be used in my report in 3 weeks (keeps getting bumped back because people keep missing or quit coming to class). With me and my spanking, i will only use it if necessary to discipline the kids (if i have any). I will also only spank them on the butt 3 times and then tell them why i spanked them. I will not let my kids run around like the kids today (gosh i felt old typing that). They will learn right from wrong. My mom has told me that she will use the same technique she used on me and my sister if my kids act up at her house. would love some more feedback and more ideas for the paper if you are up to it! ALL are welcome to comment!