foeofthelance Posted April 20, 2011 Report Share Posted April 20, 2011 The following is one of the first conversations I ever participated in in the Shout Box. I was doing research into what women prefer from their sexual encounters for the story I am currently working on. The following conversation is the result, and many thanks go out to those who participated. The conversation is uncensored and unedited, and needs to be read from the bottom up do to the way the shout box works. No names have been changed, since we're all guilty. Feel free to comment or make suggestions or discuss what you read! (01 March 2011 - 09:42 PM) Apollo: Thank you! These are the kinds of clues I need to know, both for my girlfriend and for my readers ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:41 PM) Foreplay sometimes can be skipped but not always. The slow undressing, tantalizing reveals, taking time? All sexy and builds tension foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:41 PM) BW: And, I at least, am trying to alter my own behavior ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:41 PM) Okay, specifics? Pay attention. If I shiver or moan when you touch/kiss a particular spot, remember it and go back. Hands, mouth, teeth, fingernails, even the silky skin of a cock is good for the sensory over load. The feel of you against us is hit. If I am getting into a position, react to it and don't change just as I'm getting there, just cause you may not be able to have multiple orgasms easily, doesn't mean that we can't and that we don't like it. foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:40 PM) Several of my female acquaintances got their hands on my notebooks, and disappeared for an hour into the bathroom. BronxWench : (01 March 2011 - 09:40 PM) DA: It goes two ways, too. A lot of women don't try and figure out what feels good for a man IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:40 PM) DA: no kidding. Stimulating the whole body is a key ingredient to a satisfying experience. Arms and legs and shoulders are important. OR what about using the nails?! Guys aren't the only ones who like being scratched foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:40 PM) http://original.adul...94629&chapter=7 demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:40 PM) Never even heard of it o.O BronxWench : (01 March 2011 - 09:39 PM) foe: never saw it... foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:38 PM) The running joke in my particular group is that I /still/ haven't gotten an explanation for why the Kitchen Scene from "Return of the Cheerleaders" is so good, despite the fact that it chased several ladies into the bathroom for over an hour... demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:38 PM) Its interesting how many guys think they can only use their hands, cock and mouth. Come on boys, get your whole body involved! Hell get OUR whole body involved. Rub against us, touch us in places not normally associated with sex, youd be surprised at the reactions youll get. ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:38 PM) Foe - I'm eating! Hold on a sec and I'll give you specifics DemonGoddess061 : (01 March 2011 - 09:38 PM) IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:38 PM) Foe: Kiss places that don't seem sexy that LEAD to places that are sexy. Like the neck, it can go to the ear, the clavicle, the breasts. And I figure eating pussy is a must for every female with a brain, and the teasing... Yes, that's terribly important. Sometimes its not that we don't LIKE what you're doing down there, we just don't like that you skipped to the end of the book without setting up any plot. Basically, woman are ovens, not microwaves. We need some preheat and THEN what you stick in us will come out all right. XD foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:38 PM) Whaaaaaaat? demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:36 PM) *chuckles and imagines a panic stricken male whos mind is on overload* That may be funny... SenoritaLucha : (01 March 2011 - 09:36 PM) lol IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:36 PM) I can see it now: our eyes meet across the potato fields... foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:35 PM) Dolce: I've discovered that women and men think about sex very different. (Quick, call the news papers! Its a major break through in gender relations....!) I asked three guys what they want in sex/porn, and I get answers like, "Eh, a blowjob, maybe go down on her" or "I like doggy style". Ask women, and you get answer typical of Apollo's. So far BW is the only to give specifics without prompts. Telling a guy, "I want you yo pay attention to my body!" and the first thing that crosses our minds is, "Which part? Can I get a map or multiple choice? Phone a friend? Poll the audience? Some form of clue?" BronxWench : (01 March 2011 - 09:34 PM) Dolce: Go for it! demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:34 PM) *grins at that image* Nice Dolce. IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:33 PM) Whoever said patience is a virtue was obviously getting laid on a regular basis. I just have to hope there'll be some cornfed, homegrown man on the farm I can corrupt. demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:32 PM) *sighs* Who ever said "patience is a virtue" clearly never had to wait for a new toy to arrive -.- IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:32 PM) Apollo: cheers to that, there are lots of holes you could shove a cock in. Not all of them are as accommodating as the holes on a woman foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:31 PM) Which is nice and all, but Im a /guy/. We tend to think in terms of specificity. I know, I know, its not even close to being the same thing, and I think thats the biggest problem Im running into so far ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:31 PM) ROFL - Good, I was dealing with straightening things out with my guy and dealing with a slut who thinks she has a claim on him so I missed that ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:30 PM) men to pay attention to us and our bodies, making us feel involved as opposed to a orafic for use IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:30 PM) Foe: aren't you in a "room" full of women? Women want all kinds of things outta pr0n foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:30 PM) Fortunately, DA, DG, and BW have been willing to play the Norns for me when it comes to advice foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:29 PM) Apollo: Thats going to be the first few, at any rate. I just need to get my head into what .women/ want out of sex/porn rather than thinking with my cock IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:28 PM) But I decided to try my hand at my first ever Hellsing bit. No smut, but just writing it to get a feel for how I can play the characters, so that's exciting. ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:27 PM) Foe - Well, non kink has it's benefits, slow and sweet, hard and fast, headboard banging IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:27 PM) I went from super duper pumped to flatline after dinner. Maybe that pizza helped... damn Dominoes! SenoritaLucha : (01 March 2011 - 09:25 PM) (hugs Dolce) IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:25 PM) Today has been nonstop, nonstop, and I wanted to say goodbye to my bike over the next two days and went for a ride much longer than was necessary. (Tis ok, Apollo ^^) foeofthelance : (01 March 2011 - 09:25 PM) Thanks, and duly noted Apollo. Not going to be doing kink till at least the third story, but when I get there I'll let you know ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:25 PM) Hi Dolce! (Sorry so late) IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:25 PM) I'm f---ing exhausted. SenoritaLucha : (01 March 2011 - 09:24 PM) how are you, Dolce? IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:24 PM) Oh man, my kink muse has totally left me. And I dunno if she's comin' back demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:24 PM) and* demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:23 PM) Oh any by the way, who ever had the idea for the personal rant section, I now love you lol ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:23 PM) Slutastic needs to be locked up, but that's another story! *returns DA's hugs* I know! I truly am ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:23 PM) On a general note though foe: For fantasies etc, light bondage, D/s minus the humil aspect, toys, lingerie and multiple orgasms demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:23 PM) Awesome! *hugs Apollo* Lucky lucky girl ^^ BronxWench : (01 March 2011 - 09:22 PM) Hiya, Dolce! BronxWench : (01 March 2011 - 09:22 PM) Slutastic was fish in a barrel for you, sweets! ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:22 PM) DA - Oh yes, and it is official, he is my man. Sign sealed and delivered ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:22 PM) I'm gonna dip into my student loan refund to fly instead of driving 30 hrs round trip for 36 hours, but you know what it's worth it and we need it after the stupid fucking cunt IlDolceSuono : (01 March 2011 - 09:22 PM) Lucha, Apollo, Demon, Bronx, and anyone else I'm too lazy to scroll down and find, HELLO SenoritaLucha : (01 March 2011 - 09:21 PM) hey Dolce. Did you listen to the songs? ApolloImperium : (01 March 2011 - 09:21 PM) BW: I know... and slutastic has her panties in a wad and I win, not that I'm surprised. Crazy ass bitch demonsangel : (01 March 2011 - 09:21 PM) Hey Dolce Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olwen Posted July 25, 2011 Report Share Posted July 25, 2011 I'm glad you've got some honest friends on here that were willing to share that kind of important information with you. For me it's about keeping my mind engaged or disengaged. I good fic will get me seriously wet, but a guy digging straight into my crotch looking for a quick pay off will leave me dry and chaffed. If I'm having sex with someone and I'm still able to think clearly, it's going to be a mediocre experience. Who ever I'm with has to have enough D/s experience to control what I'm thinking about, or they have to get me aroused enough to stop me from thinking. Intoxicants can help with that process. Some of the most intense sex I've ever had has been when I've been stoned out of my mind. The tiniest touch along the side of my rib cage can become the center of the universe. Feather light touches can cause scintillating cascades of energy coursing over my skin. Sensations like this are possible and enjoyable when sober, but it takes a lot more skill and time to get there. Hope this provides a few extra insights. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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