Since most adult-oriented writers on AFF main aim is to write or verbalize something shockingly hot and sexy in their story, with all you sensitive reader/critics being so bazaarly particular and fussy about the words actually used. I don't see how any of these authors can ever truly succeed.... but alas yet they do, and thats because these more experienced writers... write what they feel is sexy to them personally and that's the only thing they can go by and that is the only thing that matters in the end, for you can't please everyone in the end.
Words are like colorful paints on a artist's pallet the more you work and use them the better you get at adjusting hues, shades, and shadows. But still there is alway someone out there who enjoys being a critic just because he or she can. Don't let the critics discourage you, just do the best you can and remember some of these same cowardly critics probabley never put a pen to paper to write anything like a story.
As for the critics that actually write and endeavor to teach or make suggestions... listen to what they have to say, don't be insulted by their thoughts and imppressions, but know in the end you are still the master of your own story or tale, so please and satisfy yourself first.
Just know the difference between a proper choice of words and something that is utterly completely doppy, silly and certainly not sexy, it completely breaks the particular mood your trying to create.
Don't be discouraged by anything or anyone. Keep writing, afterall, Calanthee needs NEW dirty stories to read!!!