Joe Long

I'm 55 with children and grandchildren, make a good amount of money, enjoy my work, am well respected...so life is good - and it totally sucked when I was your age.
Please don't give up hope - take a long term look on life. I've been married for 30 years, and there have been some downs, but I treat them as bumps in the road.
I wrote my story based on events in my life, but the story comes out much better than real life. I got the girl, at least for awhile. I've already written the last scene, where I say goodbye to that girl and take my place beside the woman I would marry, and realize "I am blessed."
I graduated high school without having ever kissed a girl. Unlike the story, I graduated college while still a virgin. My father constantly berated me for not being good enough. My parents divorced and I was torn trying to keep both of them happy with me. When I was 23 and not yet out of college my father threatened to throw me out unless I got a job. Crushed, I went to the house of my girlfriend of three months (the longest lasting of my life) for her to tell me she didn't want to see me anymore. But I survived.
I got a job flipping burgers, even if I had to ride my bicycle through the snow after wrecking my car. Four months later, after trying to date someone new, I went back to the first girl, took her out for Valentine's Day, and a year and a half later married her. (That was the only girl I ever dumped. She worked in the same restaurant, and just despised that I came in to the place with someone else, especially when that someone else had a ring and then was pregnant.)
I suffered so much pain, but I endured. I have to say how I met my wife. Absolutely true. I can't put in my story because so many people know. One day I went to my car. After not having even turned on the CB radio for over a year, a voice said, "Turn on the radio and see who's on." I knew it was not my voice that resides in my head. I looked around, saw nothing, but said out loud, "OK".
I was fascinated by the woman's voice I heard on the radio, and kept trying to break in to get her handle. Eventually she gave her location and I drove over to see the car, driven by her friend, pass by. I told them on the radio that I was following, but after a few red lights lost them until she said, "We're down here, where are you?" In two weeks it will be thirty-three years since that day. I thank God for leading me to her, and for her leading me to God.

Yeah, I was the 20 year old virgin.
Not just about arguing. I remember a couple times going to these presentations where they're selling you some timeshare in the mountains (hello, Mr. and Mrs. Hanigan) and I absolutely did not want to do it, just get my free suitcase and get the hell out, but I had no idea what the wife wanted and was too afraid to ask, so I blubbered for 30 or 40 minutes. I hate conflict, did not want to start a fight, and felt like I was in a no-win situation.

SITO might be a little easier, because although there's graphic sex that's not the focus - it is a romance and a teen coming of age story.
I want to take pride in what I've written, but yeah, who can I tell about it without seeming like a perv?
Porn was hard in my day. The only video was at the X-rated movie theater. Of course the time I went when I was around 21, the girl selling tickets knew a friend of mine and told him I was there. Other than that, it was stealing a Playboy or Penthouse and going into my parent's collection of porn paperbacks.
Reddit - I really enjoyed Victoria Justice, dressed or undressed. Just simply stunning.

As it was the opinion of more than one, I'll cool it, sorry.
SITO forum yes, but I was also thinking erotic fiction in general, and how we draw upon personal experiences for writing ideas.
BTW, she's 25, no blood relationship.

Just had an eventful evening.
Most of the family went over to my nieces for a cookout. Out of IIRC 11 nieces, 4 are very fuckable (and of age), and this one hosting is the most drop dead gorgeous.
One time when she was about 12, not quite fully developed, she had spent the night at our place and in the morning came over, sat sideways in my lap, and with her arms around my neck gave these big sad eyes, "Please, Uncle Joe, could you make me some pancakes?" It's a wonder she didn't get stabbed in the ass, and that incident kept her in my thoughts for a long time. I've made a point ever since to compliment her (it's very easy) and once she was legal a little flirting.
Now she's 24 or 25, lives with the guy who's been banging her since she was 14, and they have 3 little kids. My wife and I, our daughter and the grandkids came over, with some other family members, and there were lots of kids running around the yard. I don't drink often, but I didn't have to drive so I splurged and went for a 2nd Bud Light ("But Uncle Joe, it's PLATINUM! - If you ever need a beer, stop over, I always have some!").
It was enough to get me buzzed and she was too. After a couple hours everyone had eaten and some were heading home. Our niece asks my wife and I if we'd like to come into the family room and smoke a little weed (which she's NEVER done before.) I had some horny thoughts instead and things stirred below. We got into a discussion of legalization (wife's against, I don't care) but then the wife's ready to go. I was getting a ride back to work so we were going separate ways. I always look forward to the hello and goodbye hugs with my niece, so when my wife was far enough away I went in for the hug, then whispered in my niece's ear, "I appreciate the offer, but I've never smoked anything in my life. Now if it was an orgy, you might have talked me into it!"
She backed off with a "whoa!", but while smiling and laughing. My wife was, "What did he say?"
I headed thru the house to my ride, but my wife caught up and said, "Joseph Long, what did you say to her?" A little buzzed and feeling quite relaxed, I whispered to her "I told her I appreciate the offer, but I've never smoked anything."
My wife looked at me and said sternly, "You better not smoke anything. Goodnight, see you tomorrow."
Mission accomplished, a seed planted.

Ten, maybe even five years ago if I would have tried to write fiction, my mind would go blank. Then I started doing sexual fantasies (have to start somewhere!). After I started writing, despite my age and numbers of life experiences, I thought that once this current story is completed I'd use up all my good ideas.
Now, it's so much easier. This past weekend, I spot a cute girl (not quite old enough yet, but so close) in a pair of purple shorts at the fireman's jubiliee. Then I think of the friend on the sports message board talking about traveling to Germany with his high school, and when my lawn mower is broken the guy from church (who my wife says is older than me) comes to fix it and help with the lawn, bringing his youg wife and kids the age of my grandchildren.
In a few minutes I had a story in my head.
"Tweener babysitter notices her new client stealing glances."
Past tense, first person (female) point of view.
Young girl, almost finished with puberty (late 12, early 13), advertises for a babysitting job to make money for her trip, even if it won't be nearly enough (but what else can she do at her age). Puts up ad at grocery store. Gets reply from man in his 40's, has young wife and kids 6 & 3. He works from home and on days his wife works needs someone to watch the kids. He can't keep his eyes off the girl, and despite his best effort to hide it, she can't help but notice. Not quite sure what to make of it, she talks to her BFF, who urges her to flirt back. Eventually she decides there's a new way to make the rest of the money for her trip. It will be a long, slow tease.
It's been taking me forever to find time to get through OTA Chapter 7, but now I'm going back and do major rewrites of chapter 1. The story stays exactly the same, but some junk is stripped out, more detail is added, and generally told more skillfully. I find when writing computer code, I look at stuff I've written months or a year later and am aghast at the clumsiness. The same for prose. I thank jashley13 and K.M. Weiland for helping me learn to be a better writer (and I'm still learning - never think you know it all.)

Also, in the story, and even within scenes, the story is a process of actions and reactions.
Reading an existing story such as SITO and getting to know the characters, you can then ask what you'd think they'd do in different situations. For example, what are the possible consequences of Jack saying "Yes"?
I'm a parent of grown children, and I know the urges I've felt over the years, but I haven't seen that type of thing in this story yet. If it was discovered that one of the adult men in the story was masturbating when thinking about one of the young girls (an employee, a son's girlfriend, a girl next door, a niece...even a daughter) - what would the reactions of each of the characters (wife, children, the object of affection herself) be? Which characters, as we know them so far, would be the most likely to be involved in such a scenario?
I haven't had to deal with the reaction part (just the lusting), so let you imagination go to find a reaction that you think would be true to the character and the situation.

OK, I lecture and write on non-fiction subjects. Many members of the general public who are interested in my field (read my story) know of me and my work.

Despite almost having a nervous breakdown having to write about "Portrait of the Artist As a Young Man" in Freshman Composition in college, lately I seem to have a skill at analysing characters in stories. As we've been discussing how Tara now enters in with Jack and Kayla, I thought I'd add some compare and contrast of different female characters, and their attitudes about sex.
I have made these and similar comments to these authors either privately and/or in public forums. Bashful stated that I "understood Nicole better than [he did]", and much of "Chris and Christie: Making It Work" was inspired by my comments.
So let me throw this out for all a'yunz to discuss
"What girls want out of sex"

Tara (She Is the One, jashley13)
Tara's had bad experiences with guys who only want her for sex, and seeks geunine love and devotion. She desires the emotional connection with a guy, and to be wanted for who whe is, but she's still seeking it through sex. I say, if she finds a great guy first, the meaningful sex will follow. I think she should wait for the guy who wants to date her without any expectations of sex.
Nicole (Being More Social, bashfulscribe)
Nicole craves intimacy but fears commitment, because relationships end in painful breakups. She wants to keep guys at arm's length, while still being a proud slut who engages in casual sex to convince herself that she's wanted. But, other than Adam, how many guys want her for more than the sex? She lets herself be used, rather than commit herself to the one who really loves her.
Christie (Chris and Christie, theblackknight)
Christie plays the role she thinks is expected of her. She endures bad sex and suffers verbal abuse because that's what cheerleaders are supposed to do for football players. When she finds true love and intimate sex with her nerdy neighbor Chris, she hides their relationship rather than risk her social standing with the 'in' crowd.
Hannah (One Thousand Apologies, Joe Long)
Hannah has seen her mother jump from guy to guy, and has sworn not to make the same mistakes. She only engages in intimate sex and with the man she loves, and is hurt whenever it seems that he might not take their sexual relations as seriously as she does.

Saw Ultron at the drive-in. I hadn't seen many of the Marvel movies (liked Thor best) and thought it was OK. The character of Ultron wasn't really scary to me. Raymond Reddington in a metal suit. However, my wife really liked it, and we've started going back to watch the earlier Marvel movies on demand.
However, your mention of the movie created a timeline error. The movie came out in May of 2015 and the scene that referenced it took place in July - the future! There was an earlier mention of New Year's Day being IIRC on a Wednesday, which would have been 2013, and as the story is told in past tense I was going with it taking place about two years ago.
Yeah, I'm that kind of guy to notice this. While writing my story, which is set in 1979, I have a spreadsheet with a line for each date, and columns for the weather, news, sports scores, and release dates of movies so I can keep the background details accurate.

Saw Ultron at the drive-in. I hadn't seen many of the Marvel movies (liked Thor best) and thought it was OK. The character of Ultron wasn't really scary to me. Raymond Reddington in a metal suit. However, my wife really liked it, and we've started going back to watch the earlier Marvel movies on demand.
However, your mention of the movie created a timeline error. The movie came out in May of 2015 and the scene that referenced it took place in July - the future! There was an earlier mention of New Year's Day being IIRC on a Wednesday, which would have been 2013, and as the story is told in past tense I was going with it taking place about two years ago.
Yeah, I'm that kind of guy to notice this. While writing my story, which is set in 1979, I have a spreadsheet with a line for each date, and columns for the weather, news, sports scores, and release dates of movies so I can keep the background details accurate.

"One Thousand Apologies", originally at The Blue Site (since banned for underage), now at stories online I will get the next chapter out, sometime - been working on it off and on.
I follow bashful on Twitter and we email very occasionally, but I haven't heard anything in recent weeks.

Didn't know the song but I don't know most popular music, so that slid by me. I came to NoVa 25 years ago. If you want to compare notes on the area you can PM me.
Sounds to me like Jack was headed west on I-66.

They've been said to live on the east coast, and it gets snow and ice in the winter.
I Googled the name of the steak house where Jack took Kayla for her birthday, and there was one, with a nearly identical review on Yelp, in Westchester Co, New York.
When the cabin was first mentioned, I think it was Tara who said something about Friday the 13th, which was in northern New Jersey.
But, in this chapter, Wegmans, Food Lion and Giant were all mentioned in the same sentence. There's a Wegmans a mile or so up the road from my work (quite a yuppie food shopping experience) with a Gamestop in the same shopping center. There are a few Food Lions and Giant Food is everywhere around here. Going back to Google, Wegmans and Giant are centered on Baltimore-Washington, but extend somewhat north into Philly, Allentown and New Jersey - but Food Lion is predominantly in the south east, with Baltimore-Washington being it's furthest northern extent. Checking the county where I work, the is a (blank) Ridge HS within 5 miles of the Wegmans/Gamestop.
Then the author is a military brat, and Mrs. Hannigan works in politics.
The trip to the mountains, the view from them, and the mention of "another state over" sounds like the Blue Ridge. I haven't hiked up there, but have driven the Skyline Drive.

Spiders and Snakes!

I hated salads, and refusing to eat one until ranch dressing was invented. Thirty years later, it is still the only dressing I will eat, on my salads or anything else.

Just watched the Gotham season finale! That was intense. Some people are not coming back for season 2.

I hope jashley doesn't mind, I'm not trying to hog his forum, and I will post my story here at this site one of these days if I ever figure out AFF well enough. Mine is another of the stories driven off the blue site by the under-18 Nazis. I had written a few stroke stories over the years at a few different sites, but reading "She Is the One" and "Being More Social" and unteracting with their authors compelled me to write my own semi-autobiographical serial erotica. I've been busy with real life the last few months, but I have the story outlined to the end and am still writing, off and on. http://storiesonline.net/s/10846/one-thousand-apologies

Some things I love about Joe's writing.
Doing these as a serial, with those of us in the peanut gallery making comments along the way - I admire and enjoy how he can slip things into the story without hitting you over the head with it, and making it a perfectly normal part of the story. For example "We’re young, damn it. I don’t buy into the whole ‘once you get married, sex stops’ thing but I sure as shit am not ready to be so old that ‘real life’ responsibility gets in the way of intimate times with my girlfriend." When I was 17 I swore I'd never get fat either. Sex as a married couple was good through our 20's and 30's as well, but things slowed down in the 40's and now is virtually non-existent in our 50's. I have to read about Jack plowing Kayla like a cornfield to get it up so that I can fill a kleenex. I know there were others, but that related to a comment I had made.
And more seriously (and why these chapter can end up ar over 30k words) is how good Joe is at describing the detail in a scene. Many of my scenes were written from actual events that I remembered and trancribed. Then I come here and marvel at everything I had missed, how well Joe sets the scenes in describing the expressions, sounds, smells, whatever, that make the scenes so rich. It is professional quality writing.

Hey everyone! Chapter 30 is up
Hard to believe it's been half as long again since the big fight with Brad. My, how time flies. Thankfully, there seems to be a bit more of a set schedule now so I'm happy to be churning these out on the regular.
Another non-sex, establishing chapter so if you wanted some hot-and-heavy action, unfortunately you're going to have to wait. I realize that's two chapters in a row with no sex but I couldn't find a good way to insert it without having it seem forced. Trust me, this will earn its title of 'erotica' back soon so if you really wanted some intimacy, please be patient.
Hope you all enjoy the chapter and I'll see you soon for the Reality Check

My wife complains that I never admit to being wrong. I say, "Yes I do, I'm just not wrong very often." This time, I was wrong. She missed it.

I always enjoyed this clipping, apparently no one was freaked out about it in 1924, that these two fine young people decided to marry, even without her parent's permission
COUNTY COUPLE IN ELOPEMENT William S******* and Miss Mildred G***** Wed in Cumberland, Md. Two young residents of U******** eloped on Tuesday, March 25th [1924], to Cumberland, Md. The bride was Miss Mildred Lucilla G*****, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. H. G*****. She just celebrated her 14th birthday of February 27th and was a pupil of the 8th grade school at U********. Lucilla was neither tardy of absent from school this term, until her wedding day. She is an attractive and estimable young woman. The bridegroom is Mr. William Blair S******* a former sailor, having served in the U. S. Navy for four years. He is well and favorably known in the community. No one suspected an elopement and it was a surprise to all her friends, even her parents not knowing of it until twelve hours later. She had asked permission to spend the night with a friend but went to Cumberland instead.