I agree with what you are both saying. There are always shades of gray. If there wasn't, the world would be a very boring place. But at the same time, I see nothing wrong with taking pride in ones femininty, AS LONG AS it doesn't put the other aspects of your personality at a disadvantage.
I have a job that, traditionally, would be a man's job, but that doesn't mean I should sacrifice my feminine side just for that job. I should be able to do what I do (which includes heavy labor and driving forklifts and the like) and not have someone I work with shocked when they meet me outside of a work environment and I'm a girly girl. I can't count the number of times I've heard "Wow, you really are a girl!" Well no shit Sherlock. What tipped you off??
I'm sure that men in traditionally female jobs face the same issue. Have you ever giggled at a male nurse? I'm sure not very many people here would, but still.
Maybe people should just be people, but to quote the old broadway tune, "I enjoy being a girl!" and there shouldn't be anything wrong with that either.