Palantean Writer

My question is about gender politics. Quick version: Do gay men worry less than straight men about getting beaten up by another man based purely on respective physical build? tl;dr version: I realise I've generalised about quite a few points in the following post, so I'll just say now that I recognise the limitations of generalisations and do not mean to offend. I use them simply so I can get to the point before you die of old age. Or decide 'bollocks to this' and click away, whichever comes first. Something that strikes me about homophobic bigotry is that straight men seem to be less comfortable with having homosexuals around than straight women. I presume this is (at least in part) because men tend to worry more about who is bigger/stronger than whom and therefore who would need to worry more about being in a fight and sustaining injury. This seems to happen whether social politics suggest the two are likely to fight or not. Another thing that seems to bother these straight men is the prospect of being the 'hunted' rather than the 'hunter'. As a woman it still surprises me that a fair proportion of straight males out there would rather think they're clever enough to trick women into bed than actually be attractive enough that we would genuinely want to, fully-appraised of the facts. But have a gay male make a point of lusting over a straight, homophobic male and the homophobe tends to get a mite twitchy. Have anyone flirt with a gay man and it seems to me that he'll be able to cope with being the object of attraction better than a straight man will. Women are generally smaller than men, so if a woman was to get in a fight with a man she would quite possibly lose, however I think we tend to worry very little about this. Perhaps this is because we deal with so many other people who are bigger than us and just have to get used to the idea, perhaps because social politics (in the West, at any rate) say that it's wrong for a man to hit a woman. But we don't seem to worry about it as much as men do, is my point. So my question is, as gay men are generally more comfortable with others being attracted to them, are they also less obsessed with other men being physically bigger or smaller than them and therefore with the threat of impending violence? I'm aiming in this question to completely avoid the issue of homophobic attack, I'm asking only about this general male obsession with size. I think that's reasonably comprehensible, but if not then feel free to tear me down.