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  1. ...true. Maybe I just assume people pay more attention to washing those places, while the bellybutton might have a tendency to be overlooked...
  2. If she is blame shifting (which may or may not be true), then it's just a way to make herself feel less guilty over something she's already contemplating. If you believe that her actions are caused by someone else, then you're more likely to be angry at them, not her. The thing about advice is that it's kind of like playing a game of Telephone - what she is telling you that people have said may not be exactly what they said. I've noticed that, while people hear advice all day long, they rarely actually listen. It gets sifted to suit the receiver and, if by some miracle acted upon, very rarely comes out the way it was meant to. If the idea wasn't already in her head to do something, the odds that she would agree with such advice is kind of slim. If it comes down to it, don't place the blame on her breaking up with you on anyone else - they didn't break up with you, she did of her own free will. And don't be dragged down by this idea that she's the only one out there for you! Seeing as how there are over 6 billion people in the world, the odds are kind of in your favor that you will meet someone else that is just as good...if not better - someone who won't cause you this heart-ache.
  3. I can understand the teasing aspect of it. Maybe I've just never had it...done right. But aren't there other places that would work just as well? Do I really need saliva in my bellybutton? I suppose it all comes down to people's erogenous zones and such... You know, I never thought of that...but ew and ick. Although, that doesn't quite gross me out as much as what could possibly be in there. I think, for me, what it comes down to is an aversion to having foreign objects in my mouth...which sounds so much dirtier than I mean it to...
  4. There's a thread for this in the Originals section (and, yeah, I stole the title and description), but I think the Inuyasha section can use one, too. I keep seeing people complain about either the lack of well-written stories for Inuyasha, or the fact that the fandom is dying I'll admit that I don't read as many Inu fanfics as I used to, but I'm always on the look out for something fresh and exciting - and it would be nice not to have to wade through a lot of...stuff. (All of these are WIPs.) A Time for Changes by Fuafuru46 (I'm assuming the pairing will end up being Inu/Kags, but currently it's Kouga/Kags - which isn't as disturbing as I originally thought it would be...). A Fool's Redemption by Grumblebear (Inu/Kags) Shades of Gray by fallenangel7583 (Inu/Kags)
  5. I was reading through a story the other day, gearing up for what looked to be a well-written sex scene, and came to a screeching halt when I read something along the lines of, "He ran his tongue down her body, dipping it into her bellybutton before moving on." Okay, this isn't something new to me. I've read many stories out there that have this lavishing of the bellybutton. But it bothers me. Every time I read it, I squirm in my chair and skip quickly over it. After a conversation with my roommate on this subject, I've realized what my problem with it is As far as I'm concerned, you can stick just about anything wherever you want and I'm okay with it (I mean, in stories... ). But for some reason, the thought of someone licking the inside of my bellybutton totally grosses me out - or the thought of someone wanting me to do it to them. I mean, it's a hole, where things collect and, though I'm pretty obsessive about making sure I clean mine, I know there are people out there who don't (bellybutton lint, people! You really want to find out what that tastes like?!). And it's not like it's one of the questions to ask someone before you have sex with them - "Are you clean? Do you have condoms? Do you make sure to keep your bellybutton clean? Oh, that's good because I might be tonguing it later." Can anyone explain to me why this particular act seems to make a lover writhe in delight? Because I just don't get it. And, if it doesn't, who started this?! And why, for gods' sake, do people keep using it?!
  6. I think what Shinju said is right. And, while you may have figured out what you want, she may not even have figured out who she is yet. I usually am the worst person when dealing with these situations, since I have a bit of a temper when I feel like I'm being shunned. If it were me, I would probably call them on their shit, to their face...but that's your choice to make. Yeah, it sucks, and hurts, and you feel worthless. And while I totally support wallowing, make sure that you don't allow yourself to do it for too long (it's good to hear you're at least showering...). Given the amount of responses you get when you post things like this, it's obvious that people here care for your well-being - try not to forget that. And if you ever need someone to vent to at 3AM, I'm usually on IM and willing to listen (or read, I guess).
  7. I guess I just don't understand why you tolerate this sort of behavior from her. Four days? I'm all about having space in a relationship, but honestly. Even I would at least expect a phone call. I wouldn't be worried about it - I would be furious (well, maybe not furious...but probably really freakin' mad). I'm not saying that you should be controlling or jealous. But, since she obviously doesn't get how a relationship works and has no respect for your feelings, I would definitely establish boundaries (for both of you of course)...would have established boundaries, anyway. At this point, I'm not really sure if saying, "Hey, look, you can't just leave me hanging for four days without even a 'Still alive, love ya,'" is going to help. It seems that she's pretty much figured out that doing what she does is okay (did you even get to talk to her on her birthday?). If I sound harsh, I apologize. I just wrapped up a conversation with a friend of mine and, after hearing "I don't get why she just can't love me!" for three hours, I'm a little anti people who treat their significant others with so little regard
  8. That happens to me, too - but I'll just stop in the middle of everything and write that scene out. Of course, this sometimes leads to me forgetting what I was writing before that...it seems to be a vicious cycle.
  9. I don't know how many times I've told my friends this. It's heartbreaking to watch people jump from one crappy relationship to another just because they're terrified to be by themselves. It goes along with the whole, it's hard to love someone if you can't love yourself.
  10. I think what it is, is that I just always have to be doing something. Don't get me wrong, I can waste a whole day watching crappy television (Lifetime is EVIL). But one line in a movie/show or book can send my mind off in thousands of different (and sometimes completely unrelated) directions. I guess, for me, I just have to have constant input to have output. I daydream constantly, especially when I'm in the middle of a story. Apparently, I have a certain "look" because my roommate now recognizes it and leaves me alone until I snap out of it
  11. That is kinda funny, but only because I totally understand and sympathize with you. I get distracted by things all the time and forget what I was going to write. I've almost got myself trained to just stop everything when an idea pops into my head and immediately write it down.
  12. You know, the last time you ranted about your GF, I thought to myself, "Yeah, I knew a girl like that once." She played games with guys' heads, got into relationships only to ignore her boyfriend to flirt with other guys in front of him (or behind his back and tell him about it later...and I'm really not sure what's worse), and let one of the best guys ever get away from her simply because she was doing that dumb girl thing. What is that thing anyway? I've never understood it even though I'm a girl (maybe this is why I don't get along with many girls...). The thing that gets me is here you are being a good guy, trying to make things work, and she turns around and says she might consider dating another guy if he ever asked her out?! My gut response is to tell you to break up with her because those kind of head games are bullshit and no one should have to deal with them. All those things she says and does are immature, selfish, and disrespectful. I'm not trying to rag on her. I don't know anything about the situation other than what you've talked about, but something is seriously fishy when she won't even admit that she has a boyfriend. Her thing with how she looks is just one of those things. She'll either grow out of it or be crazy about it forever. Really, she should want to look good for herself (and maybe for you ), but there isn't any reason she should be telling you that she wants to look good for other guys (disrespectful). And surely she's not the only one out there that agrees with you on things. Not to mention, what fun is it if you agree on everything? Personally, I like being around people who have different views on things than I do - it makes conversations much more interesting (I even learn things sometimes). Sometimes I even play Devil's Advocate just to get into a debate over something. There's a whole lot more I could say on this, but, honestly, it kind of aggravates me (not your rant, just the situation in general). I think I might actually be pissed off for you.
  13. I find that if I'm not reading (or doing something else that keeps the creative gears cranking), I don't write. I do dream about the characters from my stories sometimes - I don't find it strange, though, because I usually fall asleep thinking about whatever I'm writing.
  14. I sort of disagree with this. I mean, I've read stories out there that I think are really, really good that have very few reviews. And then I've read stories that are kind of boring and not well written that have tons. It makes no sense. I've also found that sometimes the longer the story is, or the slower the pace, the less people are likely to read/review it (which probably goes back to the whole instant gratification). I guess I don't understand this because, even though I'm guilty of wanting to read a little drabble every once in awhile, most of the time I really just want a good long fic that I can tuck into for a few hours (and leave a review afterward, of course).
  15. I agree. I don't think these mistakes have anything to do with age. I think the point here, though, is that there are people out there who make these mistakes continuously (like every sentence, not just every once in awhile. We all understand clumsily fingers and staring at something so long you don't see the mistakes anymore) and do nothing to correct them. If you know you have problems with things like these, then have someone look over your work. Another one is "you're" and "your"...I did this one tonight while I was writing... "whose" and "who's" saw this one over and over in a grad student's paper tonight (along with a myriad of others)...a grad student...seriously.
  16. Oh, I have lists of this stuff in my head! "all of a sudden" not "all of the sudden" "Alright" is "all right" (much like alot and a lot). "due/do" and "it's/its" (I actually make that last mistake more than I would like to admit) This one makes me cringe every time I see it: "then" and "than" Although they don't really sound alike, I see this mistake more than any other out there. "Than" is used for comparisons, "then" refers to time...I really wish people would start getting this one right.
  17. Hmmm...well, there are a few designers who do kinda weird things for men. I don't know if they'll be exactly what you're looking for, but I can give you the links to their sites. Thom Browne I'm pretty sure there were skirts of some kind in this collection. Actually, this website may be useful to you. It has a list of various designers and their collections. You can also try New York Fashion. Both of these will probably have the same designers. I would check out Ann Demeulmeester, she had some weird hat/fringe/flower thing going on in Vogue. Also, you may want to just look at more well-known designers like Versace, Etro, or D&G (I think they had a lot of plaid in their fall collection...). Even though their clothes are somewhat more...normal, they sometimes have little elements that you could take for your own. I don't know if your library would have any cutting-edge, outrageous fashion magazines, but I'm sure that you could probably find something at the bookstore. I would take a pen and paper with me and write down designers' names and try looking them up online instead of buying a whole bunch of magazines. Hope that helps somewhat.
  18. If you're still searching for this, what style are you looking for? Executive? Casual? Preppy? I may be able to help you if I know a little more specifically what you need.
  19. Haha! I kinda feel your pain, Shinju. I have a terrible time saying no. I can spend all day saying if work calls and asks me to come in on my day off, I'm going to tell them just exactly where they can stick that idea...and then they call...and I go in *sigh* I have several tactics for not using the word "no." Ignoring the question works sometimes, unless they ask you again. In which case, I do the, "Well...I don't know..." If the person persists, I start thinking of all those things that I need to do but have been putting off (for the express purpose of having an excuse when someone asks me to do something I won't want to ) like laundry, the dishes, meticulously dusting every piece of furniture in the house. If these don't work, I use another friend as an excuse ("Well, I actually already had plans that day with so-and-so...at that exact time."). Even better are my parents ("Ah, sorry, I can't. My mom wants me to go over and help her put up tomatoes/hang pictures/paint the basement/demolish something in the house again without telling Dad that day."). Before I get to actually saying "no," I say, "I'd really rather not." I have found, in most cases, this works out fairly well. As for the chicken thing...I would have just said no. It's something you don't do, you don't like. My friends always try to get me to do shots when we're out and I always refuse. If someone buys me a shot, I pawn it off on someone else. If I get caught doing this, I just shrug and say, "I don't do shots. Ever." And no, nothing you say or do will persuade me to do one. It's just one of those things I don't do. Maybe pick one thing (like refusing to eat other people's chicken ) and try saying no to that for a while (if it still spawns a feeling of guilt in you, try tacking a "thanks" on the end...at least you're refusing politely). Maybe your firm resolution will bleed over to the other things you want to say no to.
  20. This hasn't been added to in awhile (doesn't anyone have any good recs?! I need procrastination material!). Here's my three for this week: Excalion by SFC Omicron - A fantasy of epic proportions. The Beast's Mouse: A Modern Fairytale by kitty cat ate my ramen - An interesting modern version of Beauty and the Beast. The Emergency by Sphynx - Oneshot that's cute and amusing.
  21. This is a review I received yesterday from someone who had faithfully reviewed two of my other stories: After reading 'Revelations' and its sequel, it didn't take much prodding for me to get stuck into your newest story - and already, I'm hooked and loving every moment of it! With only two chapters, you've drawn me in, and I eager to read how the rest of Davi's tale unfolds... and of what exactly happened at Brier Wood that she's trying to forget. As always, your writing is high-quality and shows due care and thought: it's well-paced and engaging, and your characters are once again appealing and interesting. Definitely looking forward to future updates! It kind of made me rethink my response to this thread. I think being able to draw the same people back to your story, or building a fan base (even if it's only two or three people) that will honestly read and review your work -no matter how out in left field it gets- is the best. Those reviews make me squee on a regular basis (sometimes out loud ). This is one of those reviewers that I wish would give me con-crit (and I'd probably squee out loud over that too...).
  22. I'm not laughing at what happened to you (really I'm not because I've experienced the creepy/on drugs/could-possibly-be some-species-other-than-human guy's leer...ick). But the way you described all of that was hilarious (you know, I think that fat Chinese Pierce Brosnan may live in my neighborhood, too )
  23. Ha! Because they're sooo much more intelligent now I would think that selectively flipping panels would not only be more complicated, but more expensive since it would probably take more time. Besides, don't a lot of people flip through magazines backwards anyway? Personally, I think it could just be another way of the US not letting more cultural stuff in. It amazes me that so much of our culture goes out while very little of other's comes in.
  24. We just had another tremor here about thirty minutes ago...felt like I was dancing on my couch
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